ARCHIVED FORUM: Gurdwara Tapoban Sahib
"I Can't Help It!"
Posted by : !
Date: 7/27/2004 7:38 pm
Oddly enough, I was thinking about this issue just before I read the post about girlfriends after marriage but that post has compelled me to write up my thoughts on this commonly used excuse of "I can't help myself!"
I know a Gursikh who does a lot of anti-gurmat stuff on a regular basis. This person is well aware of it being anti-gurmat, but they excuse it by saying "I can't help it!"
Mistakes don't control Gursikhs though. We are given a choice to act according to Gurmat or against. We may all stray off course once in a while, but with Guru Sahib's kirpaa, it's always possible to find our way back...if we TRY, that is. If we however let ourselves become stuck in the mindset that we just can't help ourselves and there's nothing we can do to set ourselves right, then we surely aren't ever going to get corrected. The correcting itself is in Guru Sahib's hands, like all other things, but if we don't do our part by making the effort to do right and to stay right, we can't blame Guru Sahib for not helping us out of the pit of troubles we wallow away in, nor can we deflect blame off ourselves by saying "There's nothing I can do!" and "I can't help it!"
There are manmukhs in this world who are indeed controlled by vice and who don't care much for correcting themselves, but this shouldn't be the case for Gursikhs. We have been equipped with all the tools necessary to climb out of pits of trouble and to steer clear of them before we fall in, but if we choose to sit idly in the pit once we've fallen in and refuse to use the tools of Naam, Baani and Sangat to help us climb out, then there's no one and nothing to blame but ourselves.
We CAN correct ourselves and we SHOULD do so immediately after realizing we've slipped. The longer we put it off, the more accustomed we grow to that pit and the more difficult it becomes to climb out and to stay out. But the choice IS our own. We CAN help it!
Re: "I Can't Help It!"
Posted by : Singh
Date: 7/29/2004 4:08 am
A stronger personality is deveolped by saying NO to many things in life.
